He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not

Ever meet one of those people that you can talk to for hours and still want to chatter away more?

Well, then, welcome to the end of my Summer of 2010.

It was a summer party, backyard BBQ of sorts.  Hanging out, super chill, walking around laughing and checking the score of the Sox game.  Everyone I knew, either by my own friendships or through stories of their shenanigans.  My friends are very big on the shenanigan scene.

But this one particular individual, I hadn’t even heard of until about four days before the party when he was casually introduced in conversation.

Yet when I met him, it was like I had known him for years as closely as our (apparent) mutual friends did.  For the next 4 hours we talked, pausing only to chat with other people at the party (because it’s rude to spend your entire time enthralled with someone else when you are supposed to be being social with other people.)

We talked about where we grew up, schooling, current jobs, fascination with sports and athletes, music, travel, ambitions, life in general….shall I go on?  It’s one of those scenes you see in movies that never happen in real life.

The connection was immediate.

Or so I thought.

He loves me he loves me not
Photo Credit: Getty Images – Jenni Holma

I don’t know if it was a case of falling hopelessly in like with the entire idea of how the situation would manifest.  Or maybe thinking for a moment that movie scenes really *do* play out in real life.

Regardless, the mutual infatuation subsided nearly as quickly as it began.  Sure, there was the occasional Facebook interaction or mention in passing to the mutual friends.  But there was nothing indicating that the like was reciprocated in any other manner than an afternoon of completely engaged conversation and great company.

And that’s one of the most FRUSTRATING parts of this whole stupid dating game!  Liking someone, wondering if they like you back, putting it out there a little, getting it returned, going in a little more, they’re still on board, finally adjusting your mind to the fact “Hey, I actually rather like this character” and then radio silence.

It’s like you are damned if you do and damned if you don’t.  Even though inside you have come to terms with your like and you want to just scream it at the top of your lungs for everyone to hear.

Or you just have to wait patiently until you find the person who has those same feelings back for you and it will all work out and blah blah blah.

Sorry, but at least in this current moment, I’m totally not buying it.

How do you handle a new crush on the object of your affection?  Do you lay all your cards right out on the table or do you carefully play your hand?  Which seems better?

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