You know that moment after you’ve been talking/bantering/flirting with someone for awhile?
When you are right at the edge of that cliff, figuring out whether you want to take the leap into more than just talking and maybe go out? Cause they are absolutely captivating in their conversation. And their eyes are super blue and very pretty. And they make those butterflies swirl around in your tummy every time their name pops up in your day or their knee bumps into yours.
Then they utter that phrase that in one fell swoop plunges you off the cliff yet kicks you in the stomach:
“Sure, let’s hang out.”
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Seriously, what *is* that?!
It happened a couple months ago. I had run into this boy a couple times because of some mutual friends. And we had some great Facebook wall conversation. And I was all thinking that things would progress further. So we were talking about our Friday night plans.
And I told him what I was doing.
And he was doing something similar.
And then we talked about a local bar.
And then he said he might check out the band I wanted to see.
And then I said that I’d be there . (Seriously, could I BE any more obvious?!)
And then he said that he’d be there too, most likely.
And then I waited.
And I waited.
And I tapped my fingers impatiently on the keyboard wondering “Should I do it?”
So I said “Well, I’m going to be there too, so if you’d like some company let me know.” (I know, I know…but come on…let me be at least a LITTLE wooed here!)
And then I got the “Yeah, let’s hang out. I’ll call you for details.”
Two months later I STILL don’t know if we went on a date or if we just hung out!
I figured hanging out, cause he NEVER CALLED ME AGAIN. Yet mutual friend tells me nope, he just thought I wasn’t that into him.
ON OUR DATE THAT MIGHT HAVE BEEN A DATE BUT PROBABLY WAS JUST CATCHING A LOCAL BAND BUT COULD HAVE BEEN A DATE BECAUSE AT ONE POINT OUR PHYSICAL PROXIMITY AND CHEMISTRY SET A NEARBY COAT ON FIRE.
Seriously, single folks. If you like someone and you are going out with them LET THEM KNOW. Or just ask them out.
NO NO, not to HANG out.
Just ask them out. It will save much confusion and suffering down the line.
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