I have some unhealthy relationships with exes.
Really, who doesn’t?
If you have accepted a ex’s friend request on Facebook (but with a severe filter), dodged their harsh gazes at Greendrink events, tried to recreate the feelings from the past in the moments from the present…then you might have an unhealthy relationship with your ex as well.
In a recent study by the folks over at Your Tango, 81% of single responders admitted to thinking about their exes too much.
Let’s just take a minute and let that sink in.
81% of us think about our ex too much.
Suffice to say, if you are reading this article, 8 out of 10 of you have stopped skimming the text and let your mind wander to memories of field frolicking and jazz music listening bliss with “S/He Who Shall Not Be Named.”
Last summer, after my slightly traumatic dumping that never happened (as far as I know we might still be dating, he never returned my calls), I found the wonderful program that is Ex-Blocker.
Yet that only hides your ex. And when it comes to emotions out of sight does not really mean out of mind.
Plus, the program eliminates ALL mentions of keywords on the page. So if you dated Ryan Reynolds (you know…that OTHER Ryan Reynolds) then my friend, Green Lantern is coming out this year and you do NOT want to block those images. *sigh*
With all this attachment and avoidance, YourTango.com is offering a solution I for one am excited to get on board with.
(Photo Credit: YourTango.com)
National Break Up With Your Ex Day will take place on February 13th this year, priming the way for you to open your heart to new possibilities and happiness on the most manufactured love day of the year.
I mean…starting Valentine’s Day this year you will have a clean slate (I’m not bitter…I’m not bitter…I need chocolate.)
And believe me, after you have un-friended and un-followed every last bit of your ex in the cyber-realm, you will not go crawling back asking to be friends again.
No seriously. Don’t.
Take it from someone who *may* have experience. Unless you are ACTUALLY friends again this will absolutely end in embarrassment, mortification and heartbreak all over again.
The Facebook page and app offer you badges and updates and lots of fun gadgets to make the painful process of writing the final chapter in a story of what could have been slightly more bearable. I would probably include whiskey and a pint of Ben & Jerry’s, but we all grieve in our own ways.
Not sure if you truly have enough inner angst to completely sever ties? You can take the short 5 question quiz to determine “Should You Break Up With Your Ex.”
When I took it my results read:
Survivor: You still experience some pain, but you’re on the right path. Even though you don’t hate or pine over your ex as much, you can’t help feeling a little sad when seeing little reminders of him. You’re spending time with your friends, you deleted his number, you’ve gone on dates with other guys, so what’s the deal? You’re doing everything people told you to do, but why is it taking so long to get over him? Be patient and vigilant. If he calls you up, keep the conversation short and don’t look into his intentions. When you start dating, evaluate your choices to see if those guys are clones of your ex, or if they are guys you actually like. If he tries to friend you again on Facebook, REJECT his request! You’re on the right path, so eliminate triggers that could set you a couple of paces back.
Yeah, that’s kind of what I figured.
After a binge this holiday season that involved approximately 27 mis-steps in my attempts at dating and finding merriment for 6 weeks, I’m ready for a clean slate.
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